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Friday, September 29, 2006

Improve yourself self-esteem with positive thinking

One way to raise your self-esteem is to reverse the thoughts that are oppressing you. If someone scold you, think, They are wrong and I am a wonderful person. Similarly if you're thinking, I can't do this, change your thoughts to say, I will to do this and I will enjoy the process. Always think the positive than the nagative.
This will raise your self-esteem, your personality improves, as do all aspects of your life.

Use your fantasy to visualize yourself as a positive person. Be enthusiastic in your visualization. Give yourself reasons to believe in yourself. Do things that you have never done before which means a real challenge for you. Self esteem is based on your beliefs. The more rocks you are able to face on the road you're walking, the more you will believe in yourself and the more self confident you will become. Do a new and really challenging thing every day, and your confidence will soar.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

How to improve your self esteem

The following article covers a topic that has recently moved to center stage--at least it seems that way. If you've been thinking you need to know more about it, here's your opportunity.
Truthfully, the only difference between you and self esteem experts is time. If you'll invest a little more time in reading, you'll be that much nearer to expert status when it comes to self esteem.

How to improve your self esteem. Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybody’s mind. It doesn’t matter if you actively pursue this goal or you subconsciously working on improving your self esteem. The problem with this is that you really don’t know exactly what you want to improve. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want.

Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.
Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important.Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name.

Exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Creating a positive aura will benefit you in every thing you do.

Monday, September 11, 2006

self esteem : Secrets of Self-Confident People

I don't get it. Why is my boss heading up my organization when there are much smarter people under him?' a seminar participant asked recently. It was obvious to all of us that she was frustrated.

Since I didn't know her boss, I couldn't really answer, but if her boss is like many managers I've known, the answer is simple -- self-confidence.

"Do you remember that girl in high school who really wasn't that pretty, or even nice, but she was still popular?" I asked. "She had something about her that attracted others to her -- self-confidence."

"Instead of getting angry, maybe it's time for you to take a page out of your boss' book. After all, he must be doing something right," I suggested.

I explained that someone who is confident is very attractive. And each of us has the power be self-confident. In fact, studies reveal that most of us secretly think we're better than everyone else. We rate ourselves as more dependable, smarter, friendlier, harder-working, less-prejudiced, and even better in the sack than other people.

"Some might feel that way," she retorted. "But I tend to be pretty hard on myself."

Self-confidence is available to us all. All we have to do is borrow the same three strategies that people who appear to be confident use.

First, we have to know our strengths; we have to know where we shine. Friends' feedback, past evaluations, and a variety of psychological instruments including the Myers-Briggs Indicator, The Birkman System, and the Enneagram can provide clues. I have found the book Now Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton, Ph.D., particularly helpful. (If you purchase the book, it will contain an identification number that allows you to take the StrengthsFinder profile on the Internet.)

Second, we have to claim our strengths, and sometimes that means "faking it till we make it."

We claim our strengths by seeking opportunities to use them and then promote our successes. When I was in public relations, I worked with a man who was a wonderful pitch person. He was the first to volunteer to pitch a story to the media and wasn't bashful about speaking about his successes.

There was a woman who worked at the agency who was also an excellent pitch person, and in my opinion she was much stronger than he. But because she didn't claim her strengths she watched him fly up the corporate ladder before her.

I have seen this happen way too often to women in the workplace. Women can find it harder than men to promote themselves, and when they don't, they do themselves a huge disservice.

Third, self-confident people fuel their confidence. All of us have days in which we doubt ourselves. I have worked with top CEOs and their self-confidence sometimes wanes too. Here are four tools I have used to help me when my self-esteem sags:

One: Create "a brag file." Reserve a file for those cards, notes, letters, e-mails, etc., that tout your successes. When I am feeling a little down, I reach for my brag file. I have been doing this for twenty years, and I am happy to report that my brag file has gotten pretty thick over the years.

Two: Practice positive self-talk. When your inner critic rears its ugly head, tell him or her to shut up. Then remind him or her of your successes. There's something about personalizing our inner critics that works. I have one client who calls her inner critic Sybil.

Three: Dress for success. Our appearance often reflects the way we feel about ourselves. Some mornings when my confidence is waning, I purposely reach for one of my power suits. My whole demeanor changes when I slip on that suit, and I feel better about myself.

Four: Make sure you have a strong support system. People either give us energy or rob of us energy. Take a minute to review who you spend your time with. Look closely at each person. Does he or she build up or tear down your self-esteem? Surround yourself with people who believe in you.

Confident people are magnets for success. Why not try these simple suggestions and watch your self-confidence soar.

By Randy Siegel

self esteem : Use and Misuse Of Subliminal Messages

What are subliminal messages? A subliminal message is a message displayed for such a short period of time that your mind does not consciously register what it sees or hears. Instead your mind registers it sub-consciously. This means that your conscious mind cannot build and use arguments against the ideas exposed and thus you can be more susceptible to the unconscious idea. We’re talking about mind control from the outside that is working below the threshold of our awareness.

Like many others you may ask, is it really possible that the content or meaning of an event can affect people’s behaviour without their being aware of this event? The commercial and advertising businesses would probably pay millions to confirm whether or not such techniques are more effective than promotional communications of which people are aware.

Here are some examples of how such communications have been applied;

sexual imagery embedded in print and video advertising

film and video commercials containing briefly-flashed messages

messages in rock and other types of music barely heard in the background

sub-audible communications in self help audios

Examples of purposes of a hidden communication are;

to lead people to make non intended purchases

to get people to commit suicide

an aid for helping smokers to stop smoking

Controversy and ethics

There has been much controversy about using unconscious messages without willing or aware subjects. This is not a strange thing, because for years hidden persuasive messages have been used, to manipulate viewers or listeners to behave in ways they otherwise would not using imperceptible or masked stimuli. There have been two particular areas where the ethics of this practice have been questioned

In commercials and advertising

By fundamentalists and rock music

There’s no doubt of the insidious character of subliminal persuasion. There has been much criticism regarding the unscrupulous, unconscious persuasive methods many large corporations have used in their cravings for increased profits.

Another ethical inquiry has been targeted towards religious and political fundamentalists who have promulgated their belief of occult, satanic communications in rock music.

The self help market

The most useful application of hidden persuasive messages according to my opinion is the self help or self improvement market. This $50-millions a year industry is still expanding at a high rate. Subliminal self-help tapes, CD’s and mp3’s have been used by thousands of people all over the world and there are also numerous testimonials available showing their effectiveness in personal improvement. Examples of areas where concealed audios have been useful are

weight loss

breast enlargement

improvement in sexual function


improved bowling scores

and more. Some of these programs enable you to display your own unconscious communications and use them to change your life the way you want. These audios can be used anywhere; while driving your car, at work, playing with the kids, watching TV, doing workout, etc.

You use the subliminal program to display your own positive affirmations unconsciously in word or picture form. You are in total control of all communications which are displayed and also how they are displayed.

by Terje Brooks Ellingsen